Why You Have Time?

[catlady]

There is a good chunk of people that are on here for quite a few hours a day. I wondered why. Most people don't have time to be on forums everyday with work, school, life happening.

So, If you are a daily user of this forum, why do you have the spare time?

I personally don't work outside the home. I make jewelry and charms for extra income, and do freelance writing. It doesn't pay much. My husband works so he is our income. I have had anxiety and panic issues since I was 18. They both took a turn for the worse when I was 21 and I had to quit working at a job I loved (I was a Veterinarian Assistant). Since then I get in these traps of feeling bad, you know shortness of breath, horrible neck and head pain, feeling like I am in a dream like state. I know its from the anxiety. I spent over a year thinking I was dying from something. Like a disease of some sort. I was in and out of hospitals every other month. It was bad. People wonder why I am so spiritual, well, my faith has kept me going. I am paranoid about drugs so I refuse to take them. I am actually scared to drink alcohol anymore. Its honestly hard at times because the fear keeps me from leaving the house for weeks, even months at a time. I've only seen my mother maybe 10 times this whole past year and she lives 15 minutes away. I have probably only left the house maybe 30 times, like actually getting in a car. I don't drive as some of you may know and its because I am scared of it. I am scared of cars, I know funny right? So when my anxiety is bad, its 10 x's worse if I am in a car. I am not always kind to my husband, but when I think of what he goes through just to be with me, it makes me realize how much another human can love a person. I guess this is my way of letting you guys get to know me better, and hopefully my way to get to know you guys. I don't have many friends and this forum alone helps me out. Just being able to talk to people. I have trouble with that in real life as well. I never been a good people person which is why I guess animals have always been to the heart with me. And blah blah blah, there you have it. I am not looking for pity or anything like that. I just wanted to share about me and learn about all of you.

So why do you regular uses have the free time to be on here many hours a day as I do?

 

[Dat Girl]

Just because I am here on late nights, other times are during the morning and sometimes on the afternoon and evening. I enjoy talking to everyone here so I make some time, but most of the time it's just I'm in the house so it's either be here or play video games(sometimes I do both), but that's about it.

 

[Lady Deathbane]

Omfg, I was beginning to think I was the only one around me that has anxiety. I've only recently discovered I had anxiety because I just got a job that involves me going up to people and put a happy smiley face on reciting shit and that was extremely hard for me to do. I literally tried to place myself in the store where not many people can see me so they wouldn't come up and ask me questions. I'm sort of anticipating me getting fired because of it. It's also a job for girly girls and gay men, and I don't really fit either. So, I may just end up quitting because there's no fucking way I'm changing my work clothes every time the store isn't selling them anymore. Fuck that shit.

Anyway, enough of my ranting. I'm on here a lot because I'm basically addicted to the internet. I get on every chance I get. Don't get me wrong, I'll go out when my handful of friends want to hang, I have to walk my dog, or even just appreciate nature every once in awhile. But if I had my way, I'd be on the internet 24/7. It's waaay easier to connect with people online. And more specifically, I'm addicted to forums. I've joined my share of forums throughout my internet life and I've also created some. I've even met long time internet friends by forum.

 

[catlady]

Omfg, I was beginning to think I was the only one around me that has anxiety. I've only recently discovered I had anxiety because I just got a job that involves me going up to people and put a happy smiley face on reciting shit and that was extremely hard for me to do. I literally tried to place myself in the store where not many people can see me so they wouldn't come up and ask me questions. I'm sort of anticipating me getting fired because of it. It's also a job for girly girls and gay men, and I don't really fit either. So, I may just end up quitting because there's no fucking way I'm changing my work clothes every time the store isn't selling them anymore. Fuck that shit.

Anyway, enough of my ranting. I'm on here a lot because I'm basically addicted to the internet. I get on every chance I get. Don't get me wrong, I'll go out when my handful of friends want to hang, I have to walk my dog, or even just appreciate nature every once in awhile. But if I had my way, I'd be on the internet 24/7. It's waaay easier to connect with people online. And more specifically, I'm addicted to forums. I've joined my share of forums throughout my internet life and I've also created some. I've even met long time internet friends by forum.

Sounds like social anxiety is what you have. I have that as well. I get real nervous around people I don't know. I mean my hands sweat, I shake, I feel like I may puke. Its bad. I am not sure when or why that started cause it use to never bother me when I was younger. That started like 4 years ago. I hate parties and crowed places. And I understand completely. I feel like I can be myself online and not be judged or looked at differently. My looks don't matter, what I wear doesn't matter and people can just see the actual ME.

 

[Lady Deathbane]

Sounds like social anxiety is what you have. I have that as well. I get real nervous around people I don't know. I mean my hands sweat, I shake, I feel like I may puke. Its bad. I am not sure when or why that started cause it use to never bother me when I was younger. That started like 4 years ago. I hate parties and crowed places. And I understand completely. I feel like I can be myself online and not be judged or looked at differently. My looks don't matter, what I wear doesn't matter and people can just see the actual ME.

Yeah, I figured so. I'm really wondering if there's a way around the anxiety. When I told my boyfriend about my anxiety, all he told me was that I have to get over it if I'm ever getting a job. I still can't tell whether he was trying to give me sound advice or was just being a dick. He knows quite well that I'm not a social butterfly and I just hope it won't be the death of me.

 

[catlady]

Yeah, I figured so. I'm really wondering if there's a way around the anxiety. When I told my boyfriend about my anxiety, all he told me was that I have to get over it if I'm ever getting a job. I still can't tell whether he was trying to give me sound advice or was just being a dick. He knows quite well that I'm not a social butterfly and I just hope it won't be the death of me.

There is at home college options and jobs out there with minimal human interaction, you don't have to worry about that. My mom had all kinda of anxiety and panic issues when she was my age. She very rarely gets them now so I think they pass with age. You just can't let them consume you. Not that I am one too talk. I am still working past my brick wall. I wouldn't worry too much.

 

[Dat Girl]

I get uncomfortable with a group of people I don't know. I hate working lunch hours because of that, but it isn't that bad. Just feels like everybody is watching me, so I get stiff and my eyes get watery and slightly scared. I just want to get out of their, I prefer to be cleaning and throwing out the trash at that time.

 

[catlady]

I get uncomfortable with a group of people I don't know. I hate working lunch hours because of that, but it isn't that bad. Just feels like everybody is watching me, so I get stiff and my eyes get watery and slightly scared. I just want to get out of their, I prefer to be cleaning and throwing out the trash at that time.

Social anxiety. I have a feeling a lot of people on forums have it and don't know it. Its easier to talk on forums then in real life. Easier to be yourself and not have to worry if someone will get the wrong impression or stair at you or anything like that. SA people tend to not like attention from multiple people. Only one person at a time. I know. I am horrible when I am around more then 2 or 3 people. I space out and I don't even realize when someone is talking to me. I do it all the time. lol

 

[Dat Girl]

Ehh I don't mind a group of people as long as I know them, it actually makes me more comfortable, but if there's one more person that I don't know is there I get stiff again. It's awkward for me to be one on one with a person sometimes, it's hard to find something to talk about, so it's just silent sometimes. But I do hear people from other forums have it as well, of course it's going to easier to talk on a forum then in real life, aside from the starring and stuff, you are part of a group of people that like the stuff you enjoy, so it's more of a relief already.

 

[Leo C]

Currently, I'm on vacation. That's pretty much it.

 

[Hannah Bee]

Aww you guys have good stories! (

To simply put, mine would be because I don't have much real life friends to talk with. It's because most people would just use me to do stuff for them, or just outright bully me. My forum personality is the opposite of me, actually. I don't talk much, I feel awful day in and day out.

 

[Rysenberg]

This thread was a good read, it's really great of you all to share these things.


Mainly for me because I became slightly detached from the friends who were previously close to me - for various reasons. My Mum made me come in an hour or so earlier than they did whenever we went out no matter how many times I told her that they came in when they did. She wouldn't let me buy 18 games or whatever so I rarely even spoke to them when they were on Xbox either. And it was hardly dramatic, but there was periods where I was on holiday constantly and my Mum kept grounding me for my behaviour at School and eventually I stopped going out with them. At school I literally speak to everyone in my year so it's not like I have no social life, but I'm never involved in any of their plans anymore (which is fair enough) so I have a tonne of time at the weekend.

I appreciate that she was trying to help me, however, I believe that she was overzealous and that she perhaps overcompensated for having me at 16. It's had it's benefits, I've gained a lot more maturity from being around older people on here and Hibs.net. Even just looking at my older posts on here you can notice it. The main trouble I have is all girls that I used to hang around with have basically gone from my life. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't a fucking womanizer but it's pretty shit knowing that I don't have a realistic chance of anything with anyone AT LEAST until I leave school. And although I occasionally do get invited out, I get fed up being on my own at the weekends, but oh well.

Oh yeah, meeting you noobs is okay as well I guess.

 

[CM Punk]

I'm pretty much on this site cause I love professional wrestling and forums.
This is actually my homepage so it usually keeps me on even though sometimes I'm not.

So how do I have time? I usually don't, but right now the reasons are that I don't have many work shifts and I'm not in college/university.
I actually hate staying inside the house for so long, so I usually go take a short drive for fresh air or take my friends for a ride to Tim Hortons(Which is a donut shop, although I don't eat anything there.)
But other than that, I have really bad anger issues, borderline personality disorder, ADHD, I've been in two car accidents in the past two years(I wasn't driving), I got mugged, blah blah blah.

I really just don't give a fuck about anything anymore. What I wrote might look depressing but it isn't.

 

[Jonathan]

Because I have free time. It's also much easier to communicate online and meet new people.

 

[Dolph'sZiggler]

I find that *most* people I meet irl just annoy the fuck out of me. Like whereas some people need a reason to not like someone, I'm the opposite. I have to find reasons to like people. So for me, I really don't like meeting new people, just because it isn't all that often that I meet someone who I even feel like spending time getting to know. So if I'm not at work, school or kicking it with one of my closer friends I'd rather just be relaxing by myself than trying to be 'social' just for the sake of being social.

Now that I mention it though, my first sentence of this post sort of works for people I come across on the Internet as well

edit: Also touching on what R'Albin said... there are tons of people I know who I talk to if I see them around, but I don't become involved in their plans. Also as far as being involved in plans there are only so many times you tell people 'no' before they just stop trying to include you in shit. That's happened with me with everyone besides my few closest friends and of course my family.. but it doesn't bother me. I'm glad that finally got the hint actually